Anger is Looking down on people : Anger spreads

There was a boss at work who often got angry over small things.

He would get mad by himself, but after a few hours, he'd say, "I got angry again, didn't I? Please understand," and then go to his office like nothing happened. Why do people get angry like this?

Anger comes naturally when we're in certain situations.

Getting angry isn't the real problem. The real issue is how we treat people, not the situation itself.

Getting angry is a way of looking down on others.

We get angry at different people in different ways. We get angry at people we feel comfortable with or think are easy targets. We never get angry at people we find difficult or want to impress. We get angriest with family, then lovers, friends, employees, and servers. Anger is for people we think we can push around. Anger is ignoring.

Saying "I got angry again, didn't I? Please understand" is like saying "I looked down on you again, didn't I? You're a jerk."

People don't get angry because they have a lot of anger inside or because they have a quick temper. They get angry because they think it's okay to be rude to that person. They could talk calmly, but they choose to get angry because they think it's fine to look down on the other person.

Anger spreads.

People who are yelled at feel bad too. Polite people don't get excited, but rude people will get angry at someone else they think is an easy target. Anger spreads among rude people. To stop this spread, polite people need to step up. We need to speak firmly to rude people: